How to Talk to Kids About Their Feelings (Without the Eye Rolls)

If you’ve ever tried to ask your child, “How was your day?” only to get a shrug, “fine,” or an exaggerated eye roll, you’re not alone. Talking to kids about their feelings can feel like navigating a maze—especially as they get older and more independent. But the truth is, open conversations about emotions are one of the most important ways we can support a child’s mental health.

At Every Child, Inc., we work with families every day who are learning how to connect with their children in meaningful ways. Whether you’re a foster parent, biological caregiver, or both, the following strategies can help take some of the frustration out of “feelings talk.”

Why Feelings Talk Matters

Children don’t automatically know how to process emotions like stress, sadness, or anger. When we give them tools to name and express feelings, we’re not just helping them handle tough moments—we’re teaching lifelong skills that build resilience, healthy relationships, and stronger mental health.

5 Ways to Talk to Kids About Their Feelings

1. Ask Specific Questions

Instead of the classic, “How was your day?” try questions like:

• “Who did you sit with at lunch today?”

• “What was the funniest thing that happened?”

• “Was there a moment that felt hard?”

Specific, open-ended questions help kids share more than one-word answers.

2. Normalize All Feelings

Let your child know it’s okay to feel sad, frustrated, or scared—just as much as it’s okay to feel happy and excited. When we treat emotions as normal (not “good” or “bad”), kids are more likely to share them openly.

3. Lead by Example

If you want your child to talk about their feelings, show them how it’s done. You might say:

• “I felt nervous before my meeting today, but I took a deep breath, and it helped.”

• “I was really frustrated in traffic. Next time I’ll try to put on some calming music.”

Modeling shows kids that emotions are part of life and can be handled in healthy ways.

4. Use Everyday Moments

Talking about feelings doesn’t have to be a sit-down conversation. Try bringing it up while cooking dinner, walking the dog, or driving together. Sometimes kids open up more when it doesn’t feel like a formal “talk.”

5. Listen More Than You Speak

When your child does open up, resist the urge to jump in with solutions right away. Sometimes what they need most is for you to simply listen, validate, and thank them for sharing.

What About Eye Rolls?

Yes, they’ll still happen—especially with tweens and teens. But don’t be discouraged. Even if your child rolls their eyes, they’re still hearing your message. Consistency matters. By keeping the door open, you show them you’re a safe person to come to when it really counts.

Every Child Is Here for Families

At Every Child, Inc., we know these conversations aren’t always easy. That’s why we’re here to provide support for caregivers and families navigating mental and behavioral health challenges.

If you’re looking for more tips, resources, or services, visit our website or reach out directly. You don’t have to navigate this journey alone.

Stay tuned this month as we continue to share resources for families and caregivers. Together, we can help children feel heard, supported, and empowered.