Helping Kids Navigate the Halloween “Scaries”

Halloween can be a time of excitement—costumes, candy, and creative fun—but for some children, it can also bring a little bit of fear and uncertainty. Between eerie decorations popping up in familiar places, people wearing masks, and unexpected loud sounds, this season can be confusing or even overwhelming, especially for younger children or those with sensory sensitivities.

Here are some tips to help your child enjoy the season while feeling safe and supported:

1. Talk About What’s Real and What’s Pretend

Start conversations early about what your child might see or hear this time of year. Explain that the skeletons, witches, and ghosts are decorations, just make-believe fun for the holiday. Using phrases like “That’s pretend scary!” or “It’s just for decoration!” can help children separate fantasy from reality.

2. Walk Through Decorations in the Daytime

Take a “practice walk” around your neighborhood before dark so your child can see decorations in daylight. Sometimes, seeing them up close in a calm environment helps take away the mystery. Encourage your child to ask questions or even touch safe decorations to make them less intimidating.

3. Let Them Choose Their Comfort Level

Some children love dressing up; others may not. Give your child options. Maybe they prefer a simple headband or a fun shirt instead of a full costume. The same goes for trick-or-treating, there’s no rule that says they have to go door to door. Sometimes helping pass out candy or staying in for a movie night is just as special.

4. Be Mindful of Sensory Needs

Halloween can be full of loud noises, flashing lights, and unexpected textures. If your child is sensitive to sensory input, plan ahead. Bring headphones, choose softer fabrics, and take breaks as needed.

5. Use Books and Play to Prepare

Reading picture books or role-playing can help children understand what to expect. Try stories that show friendly monsters or trick-or-treating adventures. Acting out the experience with toys can also make it feel more familiar and fun.

6. Validate Their Feelings

Even if something seems silly or small to us, it might feel big to them. When your child expresses fear, listen and acknowledge it: “That decoration did look spooky! I can see why that startled you.” Validation helps them feel safe turning to you when they’re scared.

7. Focus on the Fun

Remind your child that Halloween is about creativity, imagination, and community. Focus on the parts they enjoy—baking treats, crafting, or decorating pumpkins. Helping them feel in control of the fun builds confidence for next time.

Every child experiences the world differently, and holidays like Halloween can bring out big feelings. With patience, reassurance, and a little preparation, you can help your child feel brave and confident to enjoy the magic of the season at their own pace.